Why do so many women and men obsessively attach themselves to destructive relationships relationships that they cannot walk away from? Why do they pathologically need to control their partners, using whatever means necessary? John Moore helps these people to identify, comprehend and become aware of their destructive behaviors in personal relationships so they can stop the viscous cycle of pain.
People who confuse love with obsession: instantly attach themselves to another person, regardless of compatibility; cannot function unless they are in a relationship; attempt to “fix” an abusive partner’s behavior by walking on eggshells; abandon their friends and family because they are obsessed with their relationship; try to control their partners through emotions, money, sex, and even food; stalk, harass and abuse their partners in an effort to exert control.
There is a misconception in our society about abuse. My intent with this book is to select some accounts of abuse to show that these things can and do happen in a lot of families, not just to the poor and uneducated. We get to enter these households and see that these women don’t instigate these attacks, nor do they enjoy them. These women deserve to be heard and we need to listen. Domestic abuse is in the papers every day. Maybe this book will give women the courage to leave their abusers and help us to better understand this growing problem. My hope is that these stories stay with my readers long after they put the book down.
It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
It’s My Life Now offers survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence the practical guidance, emotional reassurance, and psychological awareness they need to heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers. Worksheets and self-exploration exercises throughout the book help survivors monitor their progress as they navigate the crucial process of rebuilding self-esteem, trust, confidence, and emotional strength. Sensitive and compassionate discussions on all relevant issues from dealing with the needs of children to handling chance encounters with a former abuser to enhancing the ability to assess potential future mates, all combine to make this book a working manual for women who are, in so many ways, starting their lives over after an abusive relationship or domestic violence.
Domestic Violence in the Lives of Children: The Future of Research, Intervention, and Social Policy
Univ. of Michigan, Ann Arbor. A collection of studies building on two previous APA volumes: Children Exposed to Marital Violence, c1998, and Violence Against Children in the Family and the Community, c1998. Oriented toward future research in this area, particularly with regard to cutting edge methodology. For researchers, policymakers, psychologists and psychiatrists.
Psychological Abuse in Violent Domestic Relations
by K. Daniel O’Leary (Editor), Roland D. Maiuro (Editor)
This volume, edited by nationally known experts, K. Daniel O’Leary, Ph.D. (Distinguished Scientist Award from the American Psychological Association) and Roland D. Maiuro, Ph.D. (Gold Achievement Award, American Psychiatric Association), provides a compilation of writings on psychological and emotional abuse in violent domestic relations. Based, in part, on scholarly contributions to the peer review journal Violence and Victims, the book details the different forms and patterns of psychological abuse that often precede and accompany domestic violence. Standardized inventories and questionnaires for reliably measuring abuse are included and reports of recent studies on the impact of abuse upon mental health and social well being are provided. Interpersonal dynamics within specific high-risk populations such as low-income women and African American women also receive attention. An authoritative reference book for counselors, health care providers, family law attorneys, researchers, advanced students, and sophisticated readers concerned with what many consider to be the most toxic and lasting type of trauma in domestic violence – psychological maltreatment and abuse.
Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free
This is not a reference text about domestic violence. It is not an instructional manual on how to escape from a batterer. Plenty of these exist. It is a travel guide to a country no one visits willingly, the collective tales of past travelers making the landscape less threatening, less alien. I hope the many voices in this book will convince you that these stories belong to all of us. Domestic abuse doesn’t just happen “out there” somewhere–it happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street. It happens to people we see at the supermarket, the movie theater, the ballet, the bowling alley, and the PTA board meeting. It happens to our friends, our coworkers, and our family members. Women who have experienced domestic abuse look just like everyone else.
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