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Feeling Suicidal?

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.” That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die – it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights… no matter how much you want to remain standing. (That’s why it’s useless for someone to say to you, cheer up! – of course you would, if you could.)  Quote From “If You’re Thinking About Suicide…Read This First”

I have some pretty strong feelings about suicide. I used to believe it was about choosing the right to make things stop. That right, was something I could not exercise when I was younger, but in adulthood I believed that I could. However, when you stop and think about how pain can compel such an action, you realize there isn’t much choice involved. In simpler terms, that which drives us, controls us, not visa versa.

I lost one brother to suicide. So I have experienced the feelings from both sides. Dealing with the death of my brother was by far one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Sometimes when we feel suicidal, we might believe that others are better off without us. That just is not the case, no matter how strongly you may feel it is true. Deep pain has a way of clouding ones thinking. Do you really want to be making such a huge decision regarding your future when you are not thinking at your best, particularly when it’s not reversible?

Feeling suicidal is a serious problem and no one should take it lightly. If you find yourself feeling suicidal I recommend that you seek immediate help. These are some online resources that may help you get up the courage to make the call for help. Above all else — YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Please keep yourself safe.

The Surgeon General’s Call To Prevent Suicide
“On July 28, 2020, Tipper Gore and Surgeon General David Satcher hosted a press conference at which the Surgeon General unveiled a blueprint to prevent suicide in the United States. The document, entitled The Surgeon General’s Call To Action To Prevent Suicide, outlines more than a dozen steps that can be taken by individuals, communities, organizations and policy makers.”

Befrienders International
Includes crisis centers for the U.S., Canada and many international areas. Also on site is information for helping a suicidal person, and help if you are feeling suicidal.

If You’re Thinking About Suicide…Read This First
This is a top notch site that discusses openly with anyone feeling suicidal the pain behind it while giving hope and reasons to continue on. I recommend this site to anyone, I know I have been here enough that’s for sure.

This is the U.S. mirror site of the Samaritans. Has the latest information on suicide. Also provides a way to talk to someone either anonymously or not (your choice) about feeling suicidal. Great site. Lots of information, too much to list individually here.

What To Do If You Suspect A Loved One May Be Contemplating Suicide
Great site, that is self explanatory that discusses what to do if you suspect a loved one is contemplating suicide.


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